Not only does this attitude put an immense amount of sexual pressure on straight men, it can also have a negative impact on the people in their life, including any sexual partners.
Once you understand all the benefits (and pleasure) that comes with men using sex toys, there’s no looking back. According to Magnus Sullivan, author of Better Than the Hand: How Masturbation is the Key to Better Sex and Healthier Living, these feel-good gadgets can open the door to men becoming more generous lovers.
And this makes total sense to us. Exploration of one’s own sexual satisfaction, without just heading for penis-centric masturbation, builds patience and understanding, which in turn can lead to magical things happening in the bedroom with a partner.
More good news: the regular use of sex toys can also improve male sexual performance, by helping to develop techniques that include staying hard for longer, delaying orgasms, and even having multiple orgasms. It could also have the added benefit of lowering male sexual anxiety around meeting a certain sexual standard that society has set.
But it’s easier said than done to just lose your inhibitions in relation to the use of sex toys when you have a penis. Including your partner could help, so take them sex toy shopping with you and pick out the most attractive gadget - before using your sex toys together in the bedroom. Ultimately, the whole point of a sex toy, be it a butt plug, a cock ring or a self-pleasure egg, is to explore new levels of sexual joy. It is not there to replace your partner but to enhance your sex life as a couple. Your body, your rules.