Having sex after 50 doesn’t have to be boring.
18. Set the mood. If you’re feeling nervous or aren’t comfortable with your partner seeing you naked in broad day light, try mood lighting. Not only will it make you feel more comfortable, but it will also give the room a sensual look.
19. Take your time. If you’re experiencing vaginal dryness, give yourself enough time to build your arousal and feel sensual. Your body will have more time to produce natural lubrication.
20. Make foreplay the main event. If you’ve started to experience pain during penetrative sex after menopause, focus on foreplay activities like mutual masturbation and oral sex. It will give you a chance to explore each other’s desires free of pain.
21. Give your partner a massage. Too much emphasis is put on penetrative sex in our culture, while touches of all kinds can lead to intense orgasms. Try giving your partner a sensual massage and you might just discover new erogenous zones you didn’t know about.
22. Try different positions. The more you get to know what works for you and what doesn’t, the more comfortable you will be during sex and the more you will be able to enjoy yourself. Try to make intercourse easy on your joints with lowimpact positions like spooning.
23. Get on top. If you’re a person with a vagina and experience pain during penetrative sex, getting on top can be beneficial because it will allow you to control the depth of penetration and avoid unnecessary pain.
24. Use a pillow. There is absolutely no shame in making yourself comfortable. Placing a pillow under your back during missionary can help support you and provide an extra layer of comfort. Plus, the elevated position can help your partner reach certain spots better.
25. Get to know your inner clitoris. Most people with vulvas don’t know that there is more to the clitoris than the visible part that stick out above the labia. The interior clitoris extends four inches inside your body, wrapping itself around the vaginal canal. Explore different ways to stimulate your inner clitoris, alone or with a partner, and you may discover a whole new world of orgasmic possibilities.
26. Practice peaking. Also known as edging, peaking is the practice of bringing yourself close to orgasm, stopping for a few moments, and then repeating this stop-and-start pattern until you are ready to orgasm. This technique can lead to longer sex, increased arousal and better orgasms.
27. Use sex toys. Introducing vibrators and other sex toys into your couple’s sex life can spice up your relationship and help the both of you achieve the big O. At first, consider guiding your partner by telling them how you like your sex toys to be used on your body, then feel free to explore together.
28. Focus on your breath. It’s proven that deep breathing promotes relaxation and releases tension, but it has also been shown that the deeper you breathe, the more intense your orgasms can get.
29. Laugh. Sex is meant to be fun, so even if you encounter some issues down there, just laugh it off with your partner. Chances are they’re just as nervous about it. Laughter will ease the tension and you’ll both be able to enjoy yourselves better after.
30. Practice safe sex. It’s not because you’ve entered menopause and can no longer get pregnant that STIs can’t rear their unpleasant heads around. Using condoms and getting tested are great ways to stay safe while getting lucky.