Before opening up to someone else, it’s important that you feel ready. This includes having everything crystal clear in your mind. For most people, communicating about sex fantasies is not an everyday conversation, so it’s possible that your partner will have some questions. Stay present, stay clear, and give them your full attention.
Choosing a relaxed setting, such as taking a bath together or snuggling on the sofa, will help settle any nerves (yours, theirs, both) and avoid triggers. Keep things as fun and flirty as possible - this is not you saying you’re dissatisfied with your sex life as a couple - and remember to be inclusive when describing sexy scenarios.
Don’t Make It All About You
If your partner doesn’t open up that easily, you can always ask them questions to get them involved in this sex communication. You could prepare by doing some research on the most common sexual fantasies. But remember, there are endless possibilities when it comes to what turns us on, so remember to…
Stay positive and don’t be judgy, which could lead to hurt feelings or your partner feeling vulnerable.