Expectation: You won’t be nervous
Reality: But why would you be nervous? This is not your first time ever having sex. And isn’t it better when sex is spontaneous? Even with experience, sex requires a certain level of trust and vulnerability. If you’re the anxious type (sex-related or otherwise) it could be helpful to go for a walk, do some yoga, or spend time meditating. And yes, sex is mostly spontaneous but it doesn’t do any harm to communicate with your new partner and make sure you both feel ready for this next step!
Expectation: You won’t need lube...or protection
Reality: You can be really turned on and still experience dryness, thanks to general life stress, condoms, ovulation or sex toys. Around 17% of women between the ages of 18 and 50 experience this problem at some point, so pack your favorite lubricant in your overnight bag. We think it’s also worth the reminder that unprotected sex with a new partner for the first time is not an ideal situation - it’s better to have too many condoms than none at all.